It’s not that she doesn’t want to trust. It’s just that she’s had to unlearn the belief that everyone who says “I care about you” actually means it. You see her guarded and call her “closed off.” You wonder why she takes so long to let someone in. But what you don’t see is the [...]
Tag: trauma
Why Do I Feel So Bad?
Hundreds if not thousands of people have written about the fight-or-flight response. Google it. You’ll find enough articles to keep you reading all year. However, I have an overwhelming desire to write about it again. Why? Because in my experience it is one of the main reasons people experience anxiety, distress, overwhelm, lose sleep, snap [...]
The Old Me
I’m healing, but don’t get it twisted…I still feel the old version of me fighting for space. The version that grew up defending herself.The version that spoke before thinking because silence never protected her.The version that learned to be loud just to be heard. She still shows up sometimes.In the moments when I’m tired.In the [...]
YOU ARE WORTHY OF LOVE
Being kind to yourself involves accepting who you really are. It also involves rejecting who you are not. Here’s a big one to reject: feeling like you have to be perfect. We know we are not perfect, and life can not be perfect, but when we fall short of someone’s standard or our own standards, [...]
Dear Addict;
I know you. I know who you are. I may not know your name. But I KNOW you. I AM you. I’d like to tell you a few things. First, let me say that I know at no point in your life that you choose to be the way you are. I know you didn’t [...]
You Are Valuable
(Whether You believe it or not) Do you believe you are valuable, or do you feel like a nobody? A failure? Someone who’s life doesn’t matter. I get it. I’ve struggled with feeling valuable, too. Have you ever said hello to a friend and been totally ignored? I have. If I spot someone across the [...]
To The Cheerful Person On Their Rainy Days, You Are Valid
The world is not always sunshine and rainbows, and you do not have to be, either. Ask friends of mine to name a quality about me, and one a lot them will point out the fact that I am almost always smiling. However, what a lot of people do not see is that I have [...]
Becoming Your Safe Space
We continue to find increasingly new ways to stay busy from making our own bread (and muffins, and pizza dough, and basically anything we can think of from the extra sourdough starter to avoid food waste) to taking several extra minutes just to whip up our coffee so we can share a fun video and [...]
