One of the hardest lessons I've had to learn is that healing doesn't always look like progress. Sometimes healing looks like getting out of bed when every part of you wants to hide. Sometimes it looks like eating one real meal, answering one text message, taking one shower, or simply making it through another day [...]
People see addiction and think it starts with the first drink, the first pill, or the first hit. But for me, it started long before any of that. It started in a house where I was the daughter, but somehow became the adult. Before I knew who I was, I knew how to read a [...]
In the last few years, it seems like the world is a never-ending maze of pain with no way out. It's too lonely to bear, and the future looks bad and uncertain. At this point, the simplest things—personal hygiene, eating, socializing; things most people do without thinking twice—became big problems. Im numb, apathetic, and uninterested [...]
First and foremost, I want you to know, how special you are, and I don’t mean it in the way your parents do. When they boast about you to their friends and your family, because that always seemed forced, even though I’m sure they mean well. No, I want you to know how you light [...]
When I say I am exhausted, I mean: I can not remember what I am doing from one moment to the next. Fiction conflates with reality, and I do not know if the person I know is a character from a book or someone I went to college with. Did I feed the dog? Or [...]
Hundreds if not thousands of people have written about the fight-or-flight response. Google it. You’ll find enough articles to keep you reading all year. However, I have an overwhelming desire to write about it again. Why? Because in my experience it is one of the main reasons people experience anxiety, distress, overwhelm, lose sleep, snap [...]
I’m healing, but don’t get it twisted…I still feel the old version of me fighting for space. The version that grew up defending herself.The version that spoke before thinking because silence never protected her.The version that learned to be loud just to be heard. She still shows up sometimes.In the moments when I’m tired.In the [...]
Being kind to yourself involves accepting who you really are. It also involves rejecting who you are not. Here’s a big one to reject: feeling like you have to be perfect. We know we are not perfect, and life can not be perfect, but when we fall short of someone’s standard or our own standards, [...]
I know you. I know who you are. I may not know your name. But I KNOW you. I AM you. I’d like to tell you a few things. First, let me say that I know at no point in your life that you choose to be the way you are. I know you didn’t [...]
(Whether You believe it or not) Do you believe you are valuable, or do you feel like a nobody? A failure? Someone who’s life doesn’t matter. I get it. I’ve struggled with feeling valuable, too. Have you ever said hello to a friend and been totally ignored? I have. If I spot someone across the [...]
Perfectly Imperfect 