When I say I am exhausted, I mean: I can not remember what I am doing from one moment to the next. Fiction conflates with reality, and I do not know if the person I know is a character from a book or someone I went to college with. Did I feed the dog? Or [...]
It’s not that she doesn’t want to trust. It’s just that she’s had to unlearn the belief that everyone who says “I care about you” actually means it. You see her guarded and call her “closed off.” You wonder why she takes so long to let someone in. But what you don’t see is the [...]
I wish I could sit with you today, reach out and cover you with a blanket, offer a cup of coffee or tea, a listening ear. If I could, I’d hold your hand, look into your eyes, and promise not to flinch if you feel comfortable enough to speak your truth into the space between [...]
What if I told you everything I’ve been hiding so deep inside? If I just looked you in the eyes and told you every single insecurity that plagues me daily. Or how about that I just don’t feel good enough for you. Because I don’t. I don’t feel like I’ve been the person worthy of [...]
Hundreds if not thousands of people have written about the fight-or-flight response. Google it. You’ll find enough articles to keep you reading all year. However, I have an overwhelming desire to write about it again. Why? Because in my experience it is one of the main reasons people experience anxiety, distress, overwhelm, lose sleep, snap [...]
I’m healing, but don’t get it twisted…I still feel the old version of me fighting for space. The version that grew up defending herself.The version that spoke before thinking because silence never protected her.The version that learned to be loud just to be heard. She still shows up sometimes.In the moments when I’m tired.In the [...]
We all make mistakes, learn from them and move on It’s okay to make mistakes. How you react and respond to mistakes is something that shows your character. There is nothing like the sting of making a mistake to make you feel inadequate, remorseful, and just plain pissed at yourself. The most important thing to [...]
As I sit down to write this letter to you I can’t help but cry and think about how much I miss you. It’s been awhile since I’ve seen you and I want to say, I’m sorry. I’m sorry that it was so hard for me to be able to come home to be with [...]
Being kind to yourself involves accepting who you really are. It also involves rejecting who you are not. Here’s a big one to reject: feeling like you have to be perfect. We know we are not perfect, and life can not be perfect, but when we fall short of someone’s standard or our own standards, [...]
I know you. I know who you are. I may not know your name. But I KNOW you. I AM you. I’d like to tell you a few things. First, let me say that I know at no point in your life that you choose to be the way you are. I know you didn’t [...]
Perfectly Imperfect 