Why Do I Feel So Bad?

Hundreds if not thousands of people have written about the fight-or-flight response. Google it. You’ll find enough articles to keep you reading all year. However, I have an overwhelming desire to write about it again. Why? Because in my experience it is one of the main reasons people experience anxiety, distress, overwhelm, lose sleep, snap [...]

Grief Is Suffocating

https://videopress.com/v/SLtBjr6s?resizeToParent=true&cover=true&preloadContent=metadata&useAverageColor=true Grief is just love with no place to go. Grief is suffocating. It wraps around you like a heavy blanket, pressing down on your chest until each breath feels like a struggle. It’s the weight that settles in your bones, making every movement an act of defiance against the invisible force pulling you down. [...]

Dear Addict;

I know you. I know who you are. I may not know your name. But I KNOW you. I AM you. I’d like to tell you a few things. First, let me say that I know at no point in your life that you choose to be the way you are. I know you didn’t [...]

To The Cheerful Person On Their Rainy Days, You Are Valid

The world is not always sunshine and rainbows, and you do not have to be, either. Ask friends of mine to name a quality about me, and one a lot them will point out the fact that I am almost always smiling. However, what a lot of people do not see is that I have [...]

Recovery;

So, you finished rehab. You’re sober now. Living in a halfway house. Waking up early to catch the bus to a job that barely pays the bills. You’re splitting a fridge with three other addicts, Listening to them fight over food or relapse excuses, Trying to stay focused on your own lane — your own [...]

Every Girl Needs To Listen To ‘She Used To Be Mine’ By Sara Bareilles

These powerful lyrics remind us how much good is inside each of us and that sometimes we are too blinded by our imperfections to see the other side of the coin, to see all of that good. https://youtu.be/53GIADHxVzM?si=X4OAjmbcVK8ICr2t Press play while you read. Sara Bareilles' song "She Used to be Mine" is about a young [...]

Accept People As They Are, But Place Them Where They belong.

“If they are showing you who they are and not who you perceive them to be, let them.” — Cassie Phillips If people misunderstand you to be someone you’re not and hate you for it, let them. If people take your presence for granted every single time and never really cared for your feelings, let [...]

Dear Andy,

I miss you. I know that's what everyone says at a time like this, but I don't know what else to say. When I say, "I miss you," I mean I miss everything about you. I miss your hearty laugh, especially when we would laugh for 10 minutes straight about something that only you and [...]

He Didn’t Date Me for Love

He Dated Me to See If He Could Be Loved Without Deserving It He never looked at me like someone he loved. He looked at me like someone who might be dumb enough to love him anyway. That’s the part that still cuts. It wasn’t romance, it was a social experiment. A test. A “let’s [...]

You Didn’t Lose the “Love of Your Life”— You Lost the Fantasy

Let me hit you with something you probably haven’t heard from your therapist because they’re too busy validating your heartbreak: You didn’t lose your soulmate. You lost your fucking illusion. And I get it — that hurts more. Because the fantasy? It was perfect.It made you feel chosen.It gave your chaos a purpose.It was your [...]