For a long time, I thought winning looked like having everything together.The right people around me.The right life.The right version of myself that everyone could accept, admire, or at least not question.I thought if I could just get it perfect enough, I’d finally feel safe. I’d finally feel like I made it.But life has a [...]
There’s a version of me I don’t like meeting.She shows up when I’m hurting—when trust gets bent, when words don’t match actions, when I realize someone I thought was safe… isn’t. She’s sharper. Quieter in the wrong ways. Louder in the ones that push people away. She doesn’t believe easily, doesn’t soften quickly, and definitely [...]
At 28, I thought I had finally figured out what “safe” looked like.Not perfect. Not fairytale-perfect. But steady. Earned. Real.After everything I went through—treatment, rebuilding my life from the ground up, learning how to sit with myself without running, numbing, or self-destructing—I believed I had become someone who could recognize the difference between chaos and [...]
In the last few years, it seems like the world is a never-ending maze of pain with no way out. It's too lonely to bear, and the future looks bad and uncertain. At this point, the simplest things—personal hygiene, eating, socializing; things most people do without thinking twice—became big problems. Im numb, apathetic, and uninterested [...]
Everyone wants to be happy, feel good about themselves, and be free. It’s something we all deserve. But sometimes, being too happy is scary. There are moments when I’m enjoying life, feeling on top of the world, and not worrying about anything. Just living in the present, thinking that everything is finally going well. But [...]
When I say I am exhausted, I mean: I can not remember what I am doing from one moment to the next. Fiction conflates with reality, and I do not know if the person I know is a character from a book or someone I went to college with. Did I feed the dog? Or [...]
You’re not stuck. You’re just committed to certain patterns of behavior because they helped you in the past. Now those behaviors have become more harmful than helpful. The reason why you can’t move forward is because you keep applying an old formula to a new level in your life. Change the formula to get a [...]
Being kind to yourself involves accepting who you really are. It also involves rejecting who you are not. Here’s a big one to reject: feeling like you have to be perfect. We know we are not perfect, and life can not be perfect, but when we fall short of someone’s standard or our own standards, [...]
I know you. I know who you are. I may not know your name. But I KNOW you. I AM you. I’d like to tell you a few things. First, let me say that I know at no point in your life that you choose to be the way you are. I know you didn’t [...]
(Whether You believe it or not) Do you believe you are valuable, or do you feel like a nobody? A failure? Someone who’s life doesn’t matter. I get it. I’ve struggled with feeling valuable, too. Have you ever said hello to a friend and been totally ignored? I have. If I spot someone across the [...]
Perfectly Imperfect 